So as the priest says, "Mawwiage it's what bwings us togevah today". This last week, we have been studying what a Godly marriage should look like. It was a really intense week! For someone who is so far from that point in life I was able to learn a ton. A biblical marriage looks very different than what the world tells us marriage should look like. As I read what the Word had to say, there were times I had to swallow some pride as a woman. The whole submitting to your husband thing... yeah... not easy. But then there were other moments that made the hard moments easier. Yes we are suppose to submit as women but husbands are suppose to love their wife to the point of death! If they are doing that, should it not be easier to submit to them?! God is good in his will for marriage and successful marriages tend to look like what the Word says they should look like.
I made an outline about 3 different biblical marriages. There are negatives and positives about each one. Even in the Bible, there is NO perfect marriage. I also have an outline about 5 goals I want to have for my future marriage (good luck to the sucker who marries me!). This is in no way a comprehensive list but a short list. Enjoy!
Marriages of the Bible
· Adam and Eve
§ God made woman out of man and they were one. (Genesis 2:22, Genesis 2:24)
§ Did not communicate well
· Eve was told she could not even touch the fruit and that she would die if she did (Genesis 3:3)
· God had told Adam just not to eat the fruit, not that he could not touch it. (Genesis 2:16,17)
§ He did not lead well
· He was right by her when she ate the fruit and he did not stop her or say anything (Genesis 3:6)
· Boaz and Ruth
§ He pursued her right
· Waited until it was the right time (Ruth 4:1-10)
· Took care of her before romantically pursuing her (Ruth 2:8-9, 15-16)
§ Interested in her, not because of her beauty but because of her dedication and commitment to Naomi (Ruth 2:11-12) (Ruth 3:11)
§ Took Ruth taking action to get Boaz to act (Ruth 3:1-10)
· Job and His wife
§ When things got hard Job’s nameless wife tells Job to “curse God and die” (Job 2:9)
· Job rebukes her and does not curse God (Job 2:10)
§ Continues to show wife how to live for God
§ Job’s wife nearly instills doubt of God into his mind.
§ He later does curse his life and I would think it had to do with the non-encouraging words of his wife. (Job 3)
Goals of Marriage
1. Marry a person who is also a Christian
§ “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”- 2 Corinthians 6:14
2. Honor God in marriage
§ Marriage should be a picture of how Christ loved the church
o Wives should summit to husband like they do to Christ
§ Ephesians 5:22-24 “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”
o Husbands should love their wives as Christ loves the church
§ Ephesians 5:25-28 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
§ Honor God in your family’s finances
o Be faithful in tithing
§ Luke 16:10 “He who is faithful in a very little thing is faithful also in much; and he who is unrighteous in a very little thing is unrighteous also in much.”
§ Matthew 6:31-33 “Do not worry then, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear for clothing?’ For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
§ Luke 6:38 “Give, and it will be given to you. They will pour into your lap a good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over. For by your standard of measure it will be measure to you in return.
3. Do not defile marriage with sexual immorality
§ Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”
4. Fulfill each other’s needs
§ Sexual needs
o 1st Corinthians 7:3-4 “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife o her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.
§ Man makes sure family is provided for.
o 1st Timothy 5:8 “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
§ Woman is ultimately in charge of running the house
o Proverbs 31:24-31 “She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.”
§ Proverbs 22:6 “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.”
§ Colossians 3:21 “Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.”
Again, this is not comprehensive but just a quick list! If you have any questions of anything you think I should add I would love to hear it!
Until next time,